You see him or her everyday- in class, on your street, even on instagram! You know that you really like him or her and that they could be your potential bae/boo. But the problem is that whenever you try to talk to them, you always get tongue-tied.
We've all been there at some point in our life, but quite unfortunately, not all of us went in for the kill or came home with the trophy.
Well, if i just described your current love situation, then you have come to the right place!
Today, Chika Nwaka from match.com schools us on how to get the confidence to talk to our crush.
Groom yourself.
Taking care of your
physical appearance just seems to boost confidence. Before you approach your
crush, or if you know you will be seeing him or her around, make sure you look
as good as you can. Take care of your personal hygiene, wear nice, fitting,
attractive clothes and shoes, comb or style your hair, and put on a nice
perfume or cologne, or at least use a good deodorant. Don't worry about what
looks good to anyone else. Do what feels good to you, and your confidence will
soar.
You must be comfortable with rejection if you want to talk to your crush confidently. He or she may reject you for one of many reasons. You may not be his or her physical type, or he or she may already have a significant other. If you worry about rejection, your confidence will falter. Keep your expectations simple, assume the worst and hope for the best, and your initial encounter, whether successful or not, will go smoothly.
Find out things you have in common.
If you want to talk to your crush and not make a fool of yourself, you have to have an idea of what kinds of things will be appealing to him or her. Observe your crush for a few days and see what he or she seems to like. That will form the basis of your initial conversation. You can break the ice by starting with a common interest that you both share, before you begin asking him or her more penetrating questions.
Practice.
To gain confidence in any aspect of your life, you need practice. Talking to a crush is no different. You may be lacking confidence at the prospect of talking to your crush because you feel awkward around strangers, or around people of a certain sex. Whatever the case may be, set up low-stakes situations that are similar to the ones involving your crush, and talk to those people casually. With time and practice, you will have developed the confidence you need to talk to your crush.
Start small.
Sometimes we forget that our crushes are also humans and that we do not have to figure out an entire conversation in advance before we begin talking. Aim to introduce yourself to your crush in passing several times, before you hope to have a lengthy conversation. This way, he or she knows who you are, and you both can start feeling comfortable around each other. So, the next few times you meet, say hi and nothing more. With a little time, your confidence level around your crush will have increased, and you will be able to talk to this person for longer periods.
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